Everyone Needs a Miranda Hobbes in Their Life

When you inventory your closest friends — the ones who’ve stood by you through thick and thin — who would you say is the most solid?

For me, it’s my friend Gigi.

The thing about Gigi is she tells it like it is. She doesn’t let me spiral into nonsense or sugarcoat hard truths to keep the peace. I can think of countless moments where she was so brutally honest, I’d be both annoyed and grateful — annoyed because she was right, and grateful because she loved me enough to say what no one else would. Every deep talk would start with her signature question:

“Do you want to vent, or do you want advice?”

Of course, regardless of what I answered, she’d always give me both. But no matter how uncomfortable the conversation got, I always knew one thing: Gigi had my back.

And that’s what solid friendship is. Not the kind that only shows up for brunch or claps for your wins, but the kind that isn’t afraid to hold up a mirror and say, “Sis, you’re not okay — let’s talk about it.”

It’s easy to be the cheerleader. It’s harder to be the truth-teller. But if we really care about someone, we should love them enough to speak up — even when it stings.

I was watching Sex and the City recently, and this whole idea of friendship got me thinking: Who’s the most solid friend in the group? Without hesitation, I said out loud:

“Miranda.”

Because honestly — who else could it be?

Like my Gigi, Miranda is a no-nonsense, fiercely loyal, emotionally intelligent friend. She tells the truth even when it’s inconvenient or likely to cause tension. She’s not obsessed with being liked. She’s concerned with being real. You don’t always agree with her, but you can’t deny that she’s in your corner — always.

If you’ve watched the show, you already know Carrie Bradshaw’s love life is… a mess (but that’s a post for another day). One of my favorite moments happens in Season 6, when Carrie drops everything and moves to Paris with a moody, older artist. Miranda, ever the voice of reason, tries to talk her out of it. Carrie doesn’t want to hear it — because the truth messes with her fairytale.

But that’s Miranda. She always speaks up, not out of jealousy or control, but out of deep care. She sees the red flags and refuses to stay silent. She doesn’t do drama for drama’s sake — she comes with logic, clarity, and a desire to protect the people she loves. She’s not reckless with her opinions, but when she speaks? It matters.

Here’s the thing: Miranda is often the “strong one” in the group. She holds it all together — career, motherhood, caretaking, you name it. And like many strong friends, she doesn’t always ask for help. But she’s the first to show up when others are hurting. That’s why it’s those friends — the ones who “don’t need anything” — that we should be checking on the most.

Miranda is the kind of friend who will fly across the world to get you out of a bad relationship. She’ll help you recover after heartbreak, hold your hand through illness, challenge your self-doubt, and sit with you in your worst moments — not just your best ones. She rolls up her sleeves and gets in the trenches with you.

Everyone needs a Miranda.

Someone who is loyal. Honest. Consistent. Someone who’s not just there for the fun but for the fallout.

Someone who won’t let you lie to yourself. Someone who loves you enough to say what needs to be said, even if it’s uncomfortable.

So think about your circle.

Who’s your Miranda?

And maybe more importantly…

Are you someone else’s Miranda?